
Paora and siblings
Every time Anne Tolley and Bill English talk about the new Ministry for Vulnerable Children, or oppose an inquiry into the historical abuse of children in state care, it sticks like a knife in my guts.
I’m Ngāti Porou through my mother, and I’m Weira — Welsh — through my father. After spending 14 years in state care, and 25 years in social work, I consider myself an expert on what it is truly like for a child with Māori whakapapa to grow up separated from all that intrinsically belongs to them.
I was five when I was taken into state care, and 18 when I was finally able to escape it.
My mother, miserable and unwell, had left us, for her own survival as well as ours, to escape my father’s violence. She was deemed to have “abandoned her children”, and so my father was awarded legal custody of us.
He then applied to Social Welfare to have us temporarily placed in its care. On my fifth birthday, he took me and my two brothers (my older sister was placed with other caregivers) to a children’s home, and left, promising to be back for us soon. I waited every day for weeks and months after that, but it would be many years before I saw him again.
Over the years, other children came and went, but my siblings and I stayed in those homes. To everyone who came to visit and view the “underprivileged” children, we looked well adjusted and cared for.
But our experience contradicted appearances and we suffered things children are not supposed to: psychological, sexual, and other physical abuse over many years. It still makes me sick to say that.
I didn’t bear it silently. I fought to protect my brothers and me from the abuse we experienced from adults charged with our care. I spoke out at every opportunity. But I was never believed. I was labelled a troublemaker and my complaints were ignored. I still suffer from the guilt of not being able to do more to protect my brothers.
It was a difficult and lonely navigation for us. The perpetual emptiness was a feeling we all experienced. As property of the state, the effects of separation and abuse manifested in many ways. Some were immediate and obvious: the disruptive behaviour. Bed-wetting. And some were repressed and long term: the inability to form trusting and lasting relationships with others — a common experience for those who’ve been in state care.
We are survivors, although none of us came through that experience unscathed. Even after I left state care, the trauma followed me. For many years, I tried to fill the emptiness with drugs and alcohol, and toxic relationships.
But, as my brother Tipene said to me: “Our stories have to be told. How would people know what it’s like for a child to go through state-imposed trauma unless we all tell our story?”
There are still thousands of kids in state care who don’t have a voice. And too many of them are Māori. According to the Children’s Commissioner, Māori make up 61 percent of all kids in state care and 71 percent of the total in youth justice residences.
If that isn’t institutional racism, what is?
Many of us squirmed at the naming of the Ministry for Vulnerable Children, Oranga Tamariki — at the tacking on of a bit of Māori with no mind of how ignorant it is to put “vulnerable” and “wellbeing” together in the same title.
One cancels out the other, just as “automatic uplift” cancels out our tamariki.
The “vulnerable”, however, fits like a glove when we consider the extent of historical state abuses on tamariki who continue to be removed in great numbers from their whānau and placed with non-kin.
As I’m writing this, friends and followers of my activism are high-fiving me on the government’s backtracking on the removal of whānau-first placement protections for tamariki in the proposed Children, Young Persons, and Their Families (Oranga Tamariki) bill.
The bill is part of the government’s overhaul of Child, Youth and Family (CYF).
The current law gives priority to placing a child with a member of their whānau, or wider hapū, or iwi.
But the new bill, as it stands, removes that priority and instead puts the emphasis on the child’s safety.
After fierce opposition from many Māori, including the Māori Party and Tariana Turia, Anne Tolley said last week that she was prepared to reconsider the wording of the bill.
But I don’t believe there’ll be much of a backtrack at all. As Anne Tolley told the Stuff website, she won’t be budging on ensuring child safety is the single most important priority.
Her justification all along has been that Māori children are more vulnerable than non-Maori when returned to their whānau because they are at high risk of being re-abused.
But what she failed to mention is that this was occurring most often as a result of the dump-and-run, patch-and-dispatch practices by social workers who don’t value the needs of Māori children as highly as non-Maori.
What’s been happening is that tamariki and rangatahi in the too-hard-basket — those deemed high need, difficult to place, or “runners” — were returned home before it was safe, and often without safety plans in place.
Victoria University criminologist Elizabeth Stanley talks at length in her book The Road to Hell, about how Māori children were uplifted at 4–5 times the rate of non-Māori — not just for abuse and neglect but also for just being Māori.
As she writes:
“Child welfare officers encouraged the public, teachers and religious leaders in delinquency spotting. And complaints regularly saw the very presence of Māori children to be the problem. In their referrals “concerned” citizens objected to Māori because they were Māori and displayed an astonishing antagonism towards them. Māori children steadily came to notice for their potential delinquency, and this targeting was the starting point for the over representation of Māori within institutions.”
It is overwhelmingly Māori children who are returned to unsafe homes so that social workers can get their caseloads under control. It is not unconscious bias but racial bias that makes a senior manager target Māori, allocate and then de-allocate cases to get it off the waiting list and without actually doing the work of assessment and investigation.
I have witnessed all of this as a CYF social worker. And when you challenge this, it is denied, buried and you become a “troublemaker”.
And where do we put all these uplifted children? Possible whānau placements are thwarted by social workers who choose not to undertake whakapapa searches (as happened with me and my siblings).
Or because willing whānau who turn up at an FGC (family group conference) can’t be used immediately, or at all, because all members having contact with a household have to be investigated and police-checked before they can be used.
This is why children are placed with unapproved and unsafe caregivers, or in motels with Armourguard minders, or in police cells for days on end — or returned to unsafe homes only to come through the CYF door again.
Anne Tolley has ignored multiple recommendations to establish strategic partnerships with iwi and Māori organisations. Instead her ministry consults and engages with and privileges organisations like Barnardos and Open Home Foundation.
It’s the same old policies of propping up white-is-right foster care organisations, but failing to support parents and whānau as the first and fundamental carers.
Bill English, interviewed on The Hui, denied again the need for an inquiry into the state’s epic abuse of children in care. What this says to survivors is: “It didn’t happen.” Or “You weren’t beaten or raped that badly”.
It sticks like a knife in our collective guts. And while it’s fantastic that Susan Devoy and others are calling for the inquiry, it shouldn’t be forgotten that Māori have been calling out state abuse of our mokopuna for decades. For example, in the landmark Puao-te-Ata-tu report in 1988.
Bill English and Anne Tolley keep referring to April 1 when the new Ministry for Vulnerable Children, Oranga Tamariki will kick in and miraculously make children safe. That’s like saying cigarettes are safe because Big Tobacco says it is.
Āe, we absolutely need an inquiry to know the scale of the state’s historical abuse on children. Without it, the cogs in the machine keep churning, trucking and trafficking.
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I just came across this two year old article because I wanted to read up about Oranga Tamariki after becoming aware of the atrocious way they’ve been behaving lately.
I’m Pakeha and I totally support your struggle for justice and to be heard.
I was driving to work listening to the radio on Friday morning when I heard about the 6 year old Pakeha girl who was thriving with her Samoan foster family and was taken away because they’re not European. I was so angry I nearly had to pull over and calm down.
What the **** is wrong with Oranga Tamariki!? This is on top of the stolen generation story that has just come out.
I thought March 15 was a wake-up call about racism in this country, but it appears we have a long way to go.
Kia kaha
Yuri
Kaa aroha Paora. Thanks for
Kaa aroha Paora. Thanks for sharing this deep emotional path you have walked.. your korero will aspire others to share and work towards the acknowledgement and justice we all deserve. It will push yet more bricks from those walls and encourage what’s best for our whanau… not the destruction that Services including the Courts and CYFS have imposed <3 kia kaha..
i was made a ward of the
i was made a ward of the state at 3mths then set free at 19 yrs old. was abused by alot of foster parents powers at b knew it was going on an did nothing 2 stop it even when outsiders rang to report it its all very well 2 say little johnny down the road needs care and 2 be safe what bout those that are in care it seems to me the powers at be have us an them policy which is …… what we let happen in our foster home we cant let new zealanders do in their homes
Hi
Hi
I am a member of an Australian fosters carer group on FB .
Can I just say white or brown skin there is something really wrong with the whole system. Children being swapped between carers just because the govt dept employees can with no change over time .. arriving or leaving with a rubbish bag of their only belongings .. mothers or father’s having no say, as other family members given custody .. the stories are endless . Even when the child is given an opportunity to say where they want to be ..will take the parent who indulges them rather than the one structuring their life.
So heartbreaking for everyone .. xx
Really nicely written piece
Really nicely written piece Paora. Spot on! I run the website newzealandchildabuse.com and am a survivor of NZs institutions. I have covered the Nats spinning of why they won’t support a public inquiry @ http://newzealandchildabuse.com/the-road-to-a-public-inquiry/
I’ve responded to some statements the Nats have come out with in this article.
I’d really like to publish what you have written on the site if possible and link to the original here.
I am heartened by the growing momentum and calls for a public inquiry and I believe we are nearly there – although this may come down to the Nats needing to lose an election.
Kia kaha
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing.
The fault is in the Government system when doing placements; they placed our tamariki in unsafe environments with unsafe families…..don’t blame the families…..look within and sort out our Government proceedures and protocol….train your social workers….give THEM THE BOOT if they place vunerable tamariki in UNSAFE families……wake up MINISTERS and SMELL THE ROSES…..this has been going on for years…..and now you blame ‘Maori’?
Kia ora. I have not
Kia ora. I have not experienced what it’s like to be raised in foster care. But recently I have observed friends whom I shall call “Cee” and “Jay” go down the path of becoming foster parents.
It was a surreal situation. Cee was about to retire from a 12 year career with CYFS (35 years in social services as a whole). Her and Jay had already raised a family of 3 kids who were now starting families of their own. They were looking forward to spending their retirement with their mokopuna.
Last day of work, Cee’s chatting with a colleague when she notices a file on a neighbouring desk. Two kids aged 6 and 3, mum with the same family surname as Jay. Turns out mum is a distant relative of Jay. Her and the father are both long-term methamphetamine addicts and the kids were removed from their care when the eldest was three, the youngest, newborn. By this stage both had been fostered / whangai to other immediate whanau. But for some reason (which would not be discovered until later) whanau no longer wanted them.
Cee rings Jay. A quick korero and she approaches the case manager, explains her and Jay’s whakapapa relationship to the kids and asks if there’s anything she can do to help. The case manager is beside herself – a bundle of hallelujahs. She immediately puts in train the process for Cee and Jay to foster the kids. Fast-tracked. Before they know it, Cee and Jay are proud foster parents of two kids, with CYFS promising ongoing support/monitoring; “…anything you need, just let us know…”.
So Cee and Jay welcome these kids into their lives. Their adult children and mokopuna welcome them too. It has to be said: Cee and Jay and their whanau are a pretty no-nonsense bunch. Not the type of people who ask for help. But when they noticed the two kids behaving strangely (6 year old rocking himself for hours, 3 year old struggling to walk and talk coherently at a 3 year old’s comprehension level) they approached CYFS for support.
What did they get? A lot of recorded voice
messages telling them to leave their contact details; plenty of unanswered emails. Pretty amazing when only a few months prior, Cee had been working in the very same office.
While that was going on Cee took the tamariki to the doctor. A bunch of tests later and it’s confirmed: both tamariki have a number of conditions which are the result of alcohol and drug fetal syndrome. At some point later, Cee learns CYFS knew about the conditions. They never informed her and Jay.
Today, two years on, those tamariki are Cee and Jay’s whanau and will remain so. They love them deeply. It’s still an ongoing struggle trying to get support for these kids; from specialist therapy to beds. Not that this whanau wait around. On principle alone, they probably should. But Cee and Jay are getting on; they have health issues too. If they wait nothing will happen. So they’ve organised for their adult children to carry the future of these kids when they leave this earth. It’s a heavy load though; one which could’ve been a lot lighter if the authorities hadn’t tried to hide the truth of the kids’ situation.
It is happening now, babies
It is happening now, babies taken at birth, not because of abuse or neglect but because of how CYFS believes they are enabled to predict potential harm. This happened before too, we objected and told CYFS that the caregiver they chose was not good, CYFS threw all their lawyers at us. Then our moko died and they said it could have happened any where, they refused to see the neglect or the life force being drained from him. When we dared to ask why the case workers wouldn’t come to our moko’s funeral they put alerts on the file saying we were volatile trouble makers. I seriously challenge the ability of the state to uplift a child on a court order without notice, the power CYFS has to pick and choose who the child is cared by, the poor training given to case workers, the absence of drug testing for CYFS carers, the pathetic in-house complaints and investigation process, and the toothless role of the Children’s Commissioner.
Tens koe #25. This is what I
Tens koe #25. This is what I speak out about all the time. The pure corrupt machine that trafficks our babies right out of their connections. I would be very interested in speaking with you further. I’m on FB if you’d like to have contact. Nga mihi for yr sharing and love to you and yr whanau for yr loss. Na Paora.
I felt every damn word you
I felt every damn word you said here. I’ve sat on both sides of the CYFS fence. Our voices were never heard when we spoke up.
It is time to rise up and be
It is time to rise up and be heard. You may change the labels, but the same compassion-fatigued staff will not be listening to the Tamariki, and the abuse and neglect will continue.
I was a foster kid,
I was a foster kid, eventually ward of the state. I had Maori whanau out there, but we very rarely, had contact with them. So I didn’t know them at all. When I became a foster child, the possibility of me going to my Maori whanau was brushed over very quickly (because they were an unknown) and I was placed into a distant pakeha family member’s home because of the new policy of placing children with family. I didn’t know them. They didn’t know me. That was a disaster. They were completely unprepared for me and held damaging unrealistic expectations. So I was moved to another pakeha family (no relation) who had more experience with the foster system and vulnerable teenagers. They weren’t perfect, and they held some very strong religious and pakeha views that weren’t positive towards Maori, but they were good to me on another level. Fed, clothed, educated etc. They fought for me when the state tried to send me back to my family that I had been removed from. I grew to care for them. Deep down, I think I was scared of losing them or the support and stability they provided, so I did everything I could not to rock the boat. Survival skills.
It wasn’t until I was in my mid 40’s that I started to seriously explore and discover my Maori whanau. Such beautiful people. What pained me the most, was that I didn’t have the connections to them that comes from growing up together. I felt welcomed and loved, and they did their best to bring me and my children into their fold, but it was obvious that I was missing something and I didn’t know how to love them back. I wonder now, how different my life would’ve been like if I had had the chance to grow up with whanau. Or at the very least, have them as a major part of my life, even if I couldn’t live with them. i.e foster parents taking steps to get me involved in whanau hui or reunions. It wasn’t the done thing then. And when the word ‘Maori’ was used in the pakeha families I grew up with, it was never used positively. My children, are experiencing life differently now. I am bringing them back, getting them involved. Perhaps, it’s too late for me. But for my children, it’s only the beginning.
I would like to tautoko the
I would like to tautoko the comments thankyou. I intend to sit a degree in social work to address this issue. To read this story has made sense to me. I was asked two years ago to start and I am going to do it because of my people my future and the youngones.Love them so much adore them want to help them so I have decided voa this article to go ahead and study.I have the power to do this .I would love some feed back on ways to do that awesome article thankyou again.
Memories are reignited
Memories are reignited reading this. Perhaps the time has arrived where we must stand together & say “No more!!” ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
Thank you for sharing your
Thank you for sharing your story Paora. I acknowledge you for your strength, knowledge and care for your whanau. I’m Ngapuhi born and never went through the state system. I was given as a whangai to my mother’s parents, my sister was given as a whangai to my father’s parents – both of us were treated like little princesses. We were raised as whangai and both of us were loved and adored our grandparents. We were given back to Mum and Dad at a later age, but our grandparents were always an important part of our lives and we were grateful for it. I remember when I moved to Auckland and I shared this story with a Pakeha friend, what was her comment, ‘Wasn’t that emotionally damaging for you that your parents gave you away?’ I was surprised as I was grateful to be loved by both my parents and grandparents. Now I understand that there is a racist ideology that Pakeha are raised with, the fear of other they cannot understand. It pollutes their systems, their lives, their media and their conversations. They create systems to keep the other under control and its not only bad for us Maori, but it is so unhealthy for them. They become anxious, fearful and depressed because they need to control what’s different and what’s other.
I’ve been caring for a baby
I’ve been caring for a baby since birth who is part Maori and who there was no one suitable in either side of the whanau who could take her. With us she is in a stable, loving family and gets to see her birth family regularly. Sometimes it’s not a viable option for children to be cared for by whanau and to be able to get the best chance in life, they do need to be placed in stable homes where they willl have opportunities that they may now otherwise have. Of course, we may be the exception as some caregivers don’t provide the best for the children in their care, but there are some very good ones and maybe more people need to put a hand up to help. If caregivers were provided with the security, protection and support they required then maybe things would be a bit different. Remember, these children have been taken away from their families as their situation had been deemed “not safe” and they are in need of care and protection. Sometimes giving them to another family member where they may still have contact with those that hurt them is not in the best long-term interest of the child. Maybe more astringent screening processes for caregivers are needed. Just a few thoughts from my experiences.
The article was very clear
The article was very clear about the fact that tamariki Maori are targeted because of rife institutional racism that occurred in the 50s and right through to the present day and which has never been addressed. The uplift of a child is NOT always due to abuse, neglect or at risk of. Often children are uplifted because of a social workers/Police call that they are at risk based upon predicted risk. Vulnerable = brown, poor and powerless. And it is an absolute myth and a racist assumption that caring whanau do not exist. That’s call/assessment/decision is often made by a practitioner who has NOT undertaken a whakapapa search. I argue that stringent screening processes are required for monocultural/colonised/racially biased, social workers. At least as stringent as the screening processes are for Maori caregivers who are vetted at 4/5 times that, of non-Maori. Mauri ora 🙂
” And it is an absolute myth
” And it is an absolute myth and a racist assumption that caring whanau do not exist. ”
Most of us are not assuming that Maori people are unable to look after their children.
I believe that the reasons for the law change are due to situations like the one that my family had in the the 90s. We probably faced that situation due to an over the top reaction to situations in the 50s – 80s. We spent two years trying to adopt my 1/4 Maori sister while she was in a bad foster care situation (with white people) because Social Welfare had to check and sign off almost every member of her Whanau before she could be properly adopted. They made it extremely clear that they were not interested in looking after yet another one of the father’s children (that he had with his own 13 year old foster child) and it still took two years to be able to get her out of a bad foster care situation and into our home. The immediate family had said no but the constant looking for far-flung relatives left a child in a bad situation. I believe that situations like this are why people are calling for the law to be changed.
It seems as if they went overboard on checking with the Whanau, which caused two years of hell for the child. Obviously this was in response to situations like Paora’s, where not enough was done to track down immediate relatives. Perhaps a more balanced approach is needed.
The social welfare system seems to be generally bad for all children. In my sister’s situation, the current rules did not work, nor did they work for her white birth mother who ended up pregnant to her foster carer. Please avoid the knee-jerk reaction to assume that the system is assuming that Maori can not look after their own children. I think that it is just generally bad and not very well organised. Obviously, I’m not an idiot. I hear how other white people talk about Maori, so I’m sure that a lot of the top players in the Social Welfare system are racist. However, based on the situation that my family had to deal with, I can only support a change in the current laws. Two years is too long to leave a child in foster care when the Whanau have stated repeatedly that they are not interested. They did not want to come in for constant meetings and signings, when they made their position clear from the start. If anything, it only fostered resentment.
Oh NO -Barnardo’s is a
Oh NO -Barnardo’s is a wicked institution -I experienced them as a 3/4 year old till my father returned from war and took me straight out -Later when I was married and my naval husband was sent abroad they came to rescue my 2 infants as they had no father –I was lucky that I had grown up in the village & was known by all—-as the Barnardos came to take my children -so the men of the village arrived and said they were the childrens guardians whilst my husband was away –the 2 kidnappers melted away –
Anne Tolley has ignored
Anne Tolley has ignored multiple recommendations to establish strategic partnerships with iwi and Māori organisations. Instead her ministry consults and engages with and privileges organisations like Barnardos and Open Home Foundation.
I agree more partnership with Maori and ongoing support for whanau. Children are out future- I applied the strength , jobs and aroha of people who work with little support but know in their hearts from life stories and life these children deserve a better, a healthy start. Tihei mauri ora.xxxxx
My Mum was one of those
My Mum was one of those children put in Social Welfare at a year old because her mother had to work and her father was abusive and drank a lot. Her and 4 of her siblings were placed in social welfare.
They lost all sense of their heritage. She suffered abuse . That was swept under the carpet.
Her first relationship was abusive.
Her second was good. But she had scars from her up bringing.
But she also became a caregiver and gave those children a life in our home that was good and free from abuse.
Tena koe Joy. Your mother was
Tena koe Joy. Your mother was, by her very experience, a witness to systemic abuse and like me used it to put good back into the world. Nothing is for nothing. Mauri ora. Blessings to your mum. 🙂
Tena koe Whaea. Nga mihi
Tena koe Whaea. Nga mihi manahau matakuikui kia koe mo ou korero. Thankyou for your insight and comments on this institutionalised racism topic. My sister is an example of someone who has been fighting for our tamariki rights for over 30 years. At her prime she had our whole valley rocking with familiy group conferences , safe family practices . She brought millions into our valley to help our whanau. She would take the whanau in with the vulnerable children and work with them alongside the family. The family wouldn’t get the child back till they made the changes needed , no drinking no drugs get a job etc. She would have up to 20 families staying in her buildings in the valley and their chidren would be acessible to them or their extended whanau to visit. None of these families had to pay anything . They needed a home she would find a home. They needed food she would feed them. She would have family conferences weekly and if circumstances had changed let the children go back for visits until she could trust the family had made the changes necessary. If not then they stayed with her. Then the funding ran out because someone else thought they could do what she did and tried to get all the funding she was getting. Not only did they stop her funding. They then tried to say the system they were using was hers and approved by her. So when the Government asked her she said no. It was not her system. So mkillions of dollars went out of our valley and people hated her for that. Fast forward to today. No funding no job only buildings and alot of aroha and commitment she is still helping families find homes and housing and caring for children who have been removed from their families by the courts, or being the intermediary between husbands and wives while they sort out issues regarding their children , and also run an education programme for children as well as care for the elderly. If you ask me She should be in the Government she would solve all the vulnerable childrens problems. You are correct removing the whanau totally is not the answer. Sure it may have begun there. But our maori whanau can not be put in a box. I was taken from birth and raised by my kuia all my siblings similar raised by our kuia. They were very strong leaders they saw our mothers and fathers needed to make money and sometimes were immature so rather than leave us with our parents they took us. And I think this was not uncommon back then. My kuia raised me with love and made me the strong individual I am today with one wife 5 beautiful and strong individual children and 6 beautiful moko that I adore. I have been teaching for over 30 years and use this principal in my teaching , that is every child before is special and loved. I am not a popular teacher with my colleagues but I am not teaching them. Although I was raised by my kuia I was always in contact with my Uncles Aunties Parents Brothers sisters and family , which is what this bill wants to get rid of. By making the state sole custodial carer for our children none of them have a chance with a Uncle that lives in Australia or a Nan down the pa or a cousin that is well off. The bill removes all rights of the family and we should say no. No to institutionalised racism , no to Anne tolley. Couldn’t even do a good job as Education Minister so they put her in charge of the children she couldn’t help before. And especially no to Bill English whos claim to fame lets make NZ rich by loaning more money and selling off our assets. Marie Stewart for Prime Minister tihei
Thank you. I would like to
Thank you. I would like to talk more about your sisters work in ‘the valley’.. I I have a very tough story like the writer of this article. I now am raising 2 whangaii from my rohe, from my hapuu, from my (now deceased) partners whanau. I feel like a mad woman sometimes as I try to get traction with social workers and cyfs and OHF about these things. I have proposed to Maori NGOs that we need to create hubs, for precisely what you have described. OHF is appalling in their white superior Christian ‘save the children’ supremacy ideology It is doing my head in. Would love to make contact. Me hui tattou!?
aroha mai only just opened
aroha mai only just opened this again.
I am a Mum of Maori descent.
I am a Mum of Maori descent. Whanau should be first choice for our children. But we must look at the safety of the children.Sometime extended whanau may not be the best choice. Remember Maori had a tight and loving environment,children were cared for by all on the marae. Now our whanau are separated and devided . The truth about NewZealand must be told.Isnt that why we are in this political situation today.
I feel I have to say this …
I feel I have to say this … I have been on both sides of this fence and have had to report on things that were happening with the system, I also tried to report it to Anne Tolley and can honestly say she never cared at the time for what was happening to the kids she was more interested in her position in her party… and who was going to be tha next leader. I also got sharfted by workers at both cyps and Winz for speaking out at the time . I couldn’t do anything to help the kids as a care giver … as I said I have been on both sides of the fence as a state child abused and ignored then as a carer ignored when requests for the kids needs wer ignored …
It matters, it all matters. I
It matters, it all matters. I know that Anne appears more interested in her positioning and getting the job done in terms of the system meeting the desired stats and fiscal objectives. If one does not trust Maori to take care of their own business then they are nothing short of colonised, entitled and ignorant of a Maori world view. They are puppies who do not yet know their pedigree. Our job as more onto it ppl (ascended, awake) is to to do all we can to call anything and everything that works against the interests of the most vulnerable, OUT! If you are already doing this then you are meeting your purpose of being in this life. Be pleased with your efforts Tanya, always and know that wairua is constantly at your beck and call. You are always enough. Mauri ora, na Paora. 🙂
Arohamai I thnk you are right
Arohamai I thnk you are right too many are more concerned about thereselves thinking because theyre getting praised that they are doing a good job but what are their true motives like you said a lot are just there to look after thereself the parents or children are just left to suffer
So we do nothing and allow
So we do nothing and allow another generation to be ripped away from their Whanau. We will march for the foreshore and seabed but not for the children?
Tens koe Etomia. True about
Tens koe Etomia. True about marching but not for our mokopuna. So some of us’ like you and I, march to our own drum. When I go home at least I can say I stood in my own mana. 🙂 Mauri ora.
I am a 64 years old and
I am a 64 years old and during the last two years,and continuing, I was diagnosed with PTS as a result of being dexualised since 3 years old in foster care, and on into an adoptive home where abuse worsened, I chose. abusive husbands, 3,After a lifetime in education and justice I’ve recently become a life coach. Yes it took 52 years to find my birth family. I too would like to address this panel.
Mauri ora Karen. Tipene my
Mauri ora Karen. Tipene my brother once said, “we who have this kind of upbringing are a type of warrior and teacher all at once. We help others wake up, aye sissy.” 🙂
I am a Maori of 63 years of
I am a Maori of 63 years of age and this story had tears running down my cheeks. We have had nearly 200 years of this oppression and yet we are reminded time and time again that we sit in the highest percentage of wrong doers in the land. Pakeha (and I refer to the Government) have had this mandate from this time and because we are of 2 different ethnicities, I believe, they have always wanted us to change to be a “brown Pakeha”. It “goes against their craw” to be equal with us because we remind them of the atrocities they inflicted on our people. It is better for them, for Maori to be at the higher echelon of the scale, so it deters away from the truth. I believe in Maori being able to look after our own destiny, as it can’t be any worse than what is happening today.
Heart emoticon. Mauri ora Don
Heart emoticon. Mauri ora Don.